he stopped giving me attention

I dont know what to do anymore. He just doesnt understand why. I felt like I would never find anyone else who would want me, this douche bag was as good as I was ever going to get. Then later said someone was making it. I hold my tension in about the pot than lash out on him cuz I know he wont change and stop smoking, but I also dont want to be with someone that doesnt make me feel special or loved. He told me he still wanted me and he loved me so i started talking to him again but things still felt weird. The day before yesterday he texted me saying hes been feeling unwell and didnt get much sleep. He keeps doing this and now he is ignoring me again and idk whats going onhe was couch hopping but hes back at his sisters now and he wont answer my emails. Hes going to party for his birthday but couldnt do anything special for me today, especially after everything I do for him. That being said, Ive grown up a lot in during our relationship which is my first and it means a lot to me and i will definitely regret our breakup. Ive communicated everything and yet nothing. Its up and down. I said we work on it or we end it. But if you have no idea why your boyfriend stopped making an effort in your relationship, talk to him. I just badly like him and want to care of him. I COME HOME AT 6 PM AND THE TRASH IS STILL THERE. I am slowly trying to make new friendships and to enjoy myself with people who love me. He has weak immune systems and get sick often so we do have days without communication.Im completely okay with not talking everyday. But Im not certain its not because he now wants to hurry to get the house finished and sell it while the market is hot. We are here Reach out. Were in a fight right now because of that and what he says is for me to do things the way I used to but that way we will never be together. What do I do? I do not want to give up on relationship, But seems to be STAGNANT right now. Keep in mind, he does suffer from depression here and there where he has no energy at times and finds no pleasure in anything. but thats what made me fall in love with him and now that i feel like the efforts arent made or not even made but not wanted, not driven, not desired as he felt before. Then he texted me to see how I was doing. I sometimes wonder if my daughter was dating someone like him, if Id tell her to ditch him. he nvr suprises me, nvr rlly care if im okay or not. MUCH LOVE!!! But he never tells me how he feels when I ask. ? It made me sad, I didnt even hear from him all weekend and then he tells me he misses me. And so its for the most part become an issue I think between us. 1. My boyfriend had a terrible marriage and an even worse divorce. Another thing that bothers me is he will ask me about my day or some other question, then when I answer, he switches the subject back to himself. I dont know if he is afraid of fall in love, but he repeatedly went to silent non responsive, when I ask why, he always says he just been busy. Somehow I always felt that he did it because of something I did. I appreciate when he does make effort and try to acknowledge it but it quickly goes away like he doesnt mean it. Im starting to think he doesnt want to marry me. We lived together in my apartment for about a year & a half. He talks but does not deliver. He will come around in my opinion. I have no friends no interest in men, I cant even stand it when strangers try to talk to me. I love him dearly, but no lie Im confused & I dont like feeling confused. Hes now making $175k a year plus an extra $5000/mo retainer as a consultant with his old job. He ignores you. When I got back from fall breakEverything changed../me him and his sister made a plan for when i graduated, i was gonna move in with him and his sister and go to college around there but that changed to him getting an apartment and a moped and me moving in with him and going to college. Nothing on either Valentines Day (was REALLY pissed the first year, this year I knew I wouldnt get anything so I didnt get him anything either) and on my birthday, he said that he had a present for me at his house, then later said he had to order it. If you always cook dinner, take a night off. He has never been one to open up about problems he has with himself or our relationship. I just now accidentally found this article and my rather lengthy comment. I was like OK and we moved on with our usual routine. Hi girl, Im in the same situation right now. I make sure I put into the relationship as much as I get. Just know youre not the only one feelings this Im not sure what is going on because I confront him about it and he says he just hasnt been on his phone. He also gave his daughter my phone number so she could text me as she wasnt feeling well. And I would listen but then my insecurities would come back and were back to where we started. I got so angry and disappointed after that. And I told him we can figure it out together after 1/2 weeks I asked him again and go if you dont want to be with me just say it and he said he doesnt want to be a di**head and I said fine and I tried ending it because the way I was getting replies I felt as if he didnt want this no more. Tinder is amazing, by the way. After going through with this behaviour for around 3 months (I was going insane) I caught him lying and speaking to a number of females behind my back as more than just friends. Although he did not tell me this beforehand, we have been trying to work on these issues and improve our relationship. .he is older than me 5 years older and I started dating him because I thought he was mature but every time we fought he puts me down telling me Im fat, Im disgusting, no one will ever want meabout a year ago I went through something where I needed all the support I could get and he left me and didnt have my back..10 years later we have no sex and its always in excuse as to why we are not having ithe continues to call me names and everytime I tell him my true feelings it seems like he dosent care, Ive asked him if he would like to try and start all over because I would still wanna be with him and he agrees and says yes and once again we keep going like through this cycle that never ends..I just wanna be happy at this point I dont know why he dosent try a little harder but Im tired. Both Christmases weve been together hes given me money with the excuse that he doesnt have time to shop. That said, he told me hes doing a lot better now and hes still acting distant. We do not even live together and he puts no effort, and I think throughout the years it would get worse if we get married, or live together. Everything I say he interprets as me hating him. Id rather focus my energy on someone who can! He is the type of person who has to be in control of everything, and I feel like when I suggest things for us to do together he shuts me down, but if any of his friends suggest the same thing he is game. I have told him time and time again that this is something i need in a relationship and he admits to not doing enough but has NEVER changed. Its 90 degrees out so I thought Id stay cool and look a little less like I live in a dumpster. We live like 30-35 minutes away but I have friends who have relationships similar and they see their boyfriends all the time. Is that just how things are going to go? He understood, admitted he takes me fore granted and he would try harder. But do you guys think its worth it? This sounds like a mentally and abusive situation. Nor was him working full time and on his masters degree for 18 months. And im as asian girl. Afterwards hes been making the time but only when I remind him. That gives a clear instruction on how they can help meet your needs. I feel like he is not making me a priority in his life. He never plans to visit me unless I ask him when hes coming, like he doesnt do anything unless I nag him, and I dont want to be a nagging person so I thought its best we go separate ways and see if we can work it out. You can change how you respond to your boyfriend and everything else in your life. He started withdrawing from me after I asked him 2-3 times to hang out and do things with me. We are in LDR. There is no consistency. We fight a lot almost every week because my needs are not met. sometimes i question if he even has time for me at all. Never any action. My friend found someone perfect really quickly on Tinder 3 years ago, and they just got married in November. I am lonely but at least Im not being rejected because Im not pretty enough or funny or have a lot of friends. You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. I said ok. im still inlove with him up to now but i feel so tired understanding him and ive been unhappy throughtout the relationship. The first 5 he was boyfriend of the year. Since then hes filed for bankruptcy and the interest he used to take in my poetry appears to have disappeared. Three weeks in he moved in with me and then the coronavirus pandemic hit and our romance took a nosedive. Sam I think you should be honest with your girlfriend and tell her this. But after reading the article I realize that Ive just been complaining but I have never taken out the time to ask him, what a healthy happy relationship looks like to him, what his definition of effort is, or what kind of life does he want us to live, with me planning everything for us or what he wants. Because of the pandemic he doesnt have work and hes enjoying being with his family so hes not in any self chaos mode. But we got OUR place, he expects me to clean, cook, everything. I have 2 dogs who give me so much love and fulfillment. He said he was planning on proposing that year. Ask yourself what could be causing your boyfriend to pull away from you. If youre reading this article and the comments, Im sorry youre here. Hes always been so affectionate towards me, always wanted us to be happy so we got together. His excuse was that he had no time because of work. He bought her a Mothers Day card. But its weird because he texts me good morning every day, asks how my day is throughout the day, sends me updates on everything he is doing, etc. But he makes time for his boys and gaming everyday. I suppose its not at all about him but when I have time to think, my mind goes to him. And youll likely receive the same treatment. Especially when fighting. Again, thank you Sumiah and to the other ladies in this blog who support each other. Sometimes even i dont get it,If im asking for too much. And he knows that Im on the edge of being homeless and I know theres not much he can do. My brother did tell me that he may be going through some things in his personal life that he is not ready to share with me. Someone needs to get off if it cant be discussed and decisions made together to improve what doesnt work for one or the other. Recently, and at a time where my mental state has been absolute crap and I really needed some comfort, we didnt see each other for about a month and a half. I stayed in that relationship. He doesnt think. If you almost never see each other, then sitting down to talk about your relationship or his lack of effort would look much different than if you live together. He doesnt reply to you, so he doesnt deserve to know youre going to find someone else. My issue lately is, he will tell me he will come to my house on Saturday after work, then later he will call and say he has to go get his dogs and pick them up. He constantly tells me he loves me but its starting to feel less true. I do really love him even we just got together. he is a loyal person i know that but hes too self centered and he makes me feel like im not important. The worst of all, Hes so Unforgiven, if we have misunderstanding ill sent a text of apology, after that ill try to call him, but, he wont pickup on several occasions. I think you deserve attention and love from a real man. Hes never been married no kids etc. Its selfish to me but maybe it really isnt. Everything has started crumbling over the last few months. I pay d bills, I buy him stuffs give him money, I practically do everything in d relationship . Over the past 2 months something changed. We have a 12 year old daughter. He has free accommodation, food, gas, sexy times, meals cooked, washing done etc. Am I being needy too much? I was told by my therapist that I could be the one to plan the date myself and ask him out and even though I completely agree with her on that, I cant help feel now that if I were to do that and ask him on a date that he will think that he doesnt ever have to put in the effort of planning something, anything, and that if he waits long enough I will plan it for us so he doesnt have to. He sends me photos while he is out with them. I got upset and she said she was done being friends with me so yeah that happened. Im hoping this isnt becoming a pattern. Here are 5 reasons he stopped texting you: 1. You wouldnt be HERE if you thought your gut was wrong. No texting. So that irritates me as I scramble to get everything I need to get done before he gets there so I can spend time with him instead of homework or dishes or laundry. The point Im trying to make is, if you settle for mistreatment and excuses for why its ok, youll only end up resentful and unable to trust anyone again. Its been bugging me for a while but I finally decided to do something about the fact that he doesnt really seem to make an effort to see me. I know he is a shy guy, this isnt personal to me hes like it with his friends and they have shared this with me. He Is Going Through Something But I look at him for him. Writing down your expectations will not only help you gain clarity and insight into yourself, itll also help you see if you need to change what you expect of your boyfriend. We never do anything spontaneous or fun, and Im the type of person who loves that stuff. Ive been with my bf for almost two years and my biggest issue is the alcoholIve been told its not a problem and that he does love me.any suggestions. A lovely text of him telling me that we can talk everyday when I wake up in the morning. Im in the same situation. Normally he kept our video call within 15 minutes, and he will keep quiet for a week after the call, but last one was lasted over half an hour and he went into silent for a few weeks after that. 58 here and it was us as the major priority for 3 solid yrs.. and now in our 4th yr. it has changed. Several, if not most of my friends live together with their partner and it is something I wish to do too. He had PTSD, bi polar disorder and anxiety. weve lived together over 2 years now. Since a month or so these fights are causing me to have panic attacks and he doesnt care when tell him how much it affects me. thats about it. The next year we talked again. Now, anytime I ask him to do laundry he throws a temper tantrum like a toddler, banging shit around, and still doesnt do the simple task I asked him to do. Damn this just made me cry because this is exactly what Im going through rn. Things had been going really well during the time we decided to get back together and I thought things were really different. I just dont feel like a priority any more. He is playing you and gas lightning you! September came around. Stacey Laura Lloyd is an author with a passion for helping others find happiness and success in their dating lives as well as in their relationships. Were on the same boat! What should I do? Im ready to just get out of this soon. Even though hes not there, I definitely dont sit home pining away for him. Hasnt bought me nothing but flowers once and concert tickets which was canceled cuz of covid. However, somewhere after the 4-5 month mark, he got another job and started working two jobs. He never seems to try, you know. Maybe hes just tired from working too much? Is Your Boyfriend's Mother Ruining Your Relationship? I am getting back to a new normal. That being said, on Christmas or birthdays or Valentines day, I expect something. I have brough up some of the issues and he acts clueless and doesnt know what to do. I can sorta relate to you, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months, but our relationship took off really quickly, and he seemed like the perfect boyfriend for the first month, but after that, its seemed like Ive gradually lost his respect. He then said it was my fault because I did not remind him that I needed a ride. he just sits there and acts like he hasnt heart a word ive said. Although weve talked about it many times and although I told him I wanted to go out once a month, he doesnt initiate. Its a long distance relationship, we live 2 hours away from each other. The thing is there seemed to be no problem in our relationship, i love him and i feel like its mutual but about two weeks ago he began to claim that i was cheating on him (which Im not) and well ik its happened to him before. I just see so many girls that have boyfriends who do so much to keep them happy, it just feels like my boyfriend stopped trying. He tried and invited me to a restaurant 2 times but that has stopped as well now. Its so frustrating and difficult when you love a man your boyfriend and he doesnt make any effort to see you, love you, or even respect you. But I have stopped always responding to him quickly and am now just being courteous but not engaging beyond that, and he gets concerned and starts asking whats wrong, am i mad at him, etc. What do you think? I feel like a roommate or guest or kept woman instead of woman he loves. But I just feel unwanted and that all I do for him is in vain. First, the more you push, the more he will pull back, because whatever his reason is, the pressure from you wont help. We look for people to fill our emptiness and when they arent meeting the standards we become emotionally unstable. Don't assume he's pulling away because of something you did. He hasnt showed any affection towards me since that incident and makes me feel he doesnt care to make me feel like Im the only one. We had the break up talk several times a day, and at the end of it, it was one of the other begging to stay together because they believed we could fix it. That same night, we agreed to date. Why doesnt he ever randomly surprise me, try to plan out dates, put a lot of thought into gifts, etc. But then he started talking to me normally and we was fine for a couple weeks but its been 3 weeks now he just hasnt been putting effort in and leaves me on read and blancs my messages (on snapchat we have a streak and thats when he snaps me) & I texted him saying hiya and he left me on read I just dont know what to do anymore my friends have told me to end this but I really do love him what shall I do? Men just are good at keeping it closed up. He knows im going to have sex with him if he initiates it because im 36 years old and NEVER EVER EVER have sex. Is he back with me to punish me or hes still holding back because of the break up and I just need to wait? I really think this will be a good thing for us because Ill be able to have my own independence and maybe make him see that I can be happy without him (even tho as of right now we are planning on staying together and commuting to each other when we can). But we were young and didnt need fancy dates. I truely love him i said i ll forgive. The last few years have been tough. Not just that, sexually as well. And i couldnt forget it. He confess to me that he started to love in our 1 month relationship. Hi! I feel it has been one sided in many ways and all he has given me is monetary odds and ends to compensate for the lack of emotional effort on his part. We spent four weekends together at his place and virtually every day together on a mutual project for a month. I said fine. He has issues, related to Pyrones disease. I have a lot of questions, but no answers. But the few times i ask him to go out of his way for me, its like im not important enough for him to do anything for. We went on a trip. They never turned up. My youngest is a 1 month and when she was about two weeks old he met this girl on a bar while hanging out with his best friend and got her number. Not texting me as often, not asking when we are going to hangout again. Be happy with you. I love him more than ever and I know I made the biggest mistake of my life. You only care about yourself, youre lazy out of anger.. which it catches up to me and makes me awful because I know his lack of energy plays a large part of it but how am I supposed to feel or do.. to make it even better he recently told me after a large fight about laundry or something I barely remember, that hes decided to go for traveling nursing in California this spring because he will make more Money (something he is very stressed out about) and I dont know what to do because thats not part of our plan. One would think he would have learned his lesson and did something special this year. You deserve so much more than whats going on and it seems like youve been by his side throughout all the ups and downs but he cant be the man you need. good luck to you. All I think of him is selfish & inconsiderate of everyones feelings but his own. ? To me it seems like your boyfriend is causing your anxiety and making you feel down which is not okay at all. Never happened. i would say hes a selfish person because all he cares is himself. If youre not happy then leave him, its that simple. I refused to go down his negative crazy road and left the room to get a cup of coffee and he prided himself on victory. should i stay or let go? He avoided conversations about his feelings, and we struggled to communicate & resolve issues. And when I ask him what hes been doing that he cant call me, he gives me horrible excuses. Sometimes he will notice mistakes I make on the work but not notice how much I need his affection. Also said he is feeling low and has issues with his father (this something he always tell me tbh)He hasnt called me yet tho he promised he would. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. And acts like a concerned boyfriend if I dont immediately respond. And also i didnt want to behave with him like that.but i loved him so much and i did every thing i can di for him. I am like at the I dont know what to do stage right now my boyfriend is not even home because I told him to just leave we got together super fast and since the beginning I noticed that he wasnt affectionate at all but I thought he might be shy but as time passed he still is non affectionate at all! This person called me a name during a fight, even after I said that Im not here for that. I knew something was wrong. A lot of times my boyfriend has realised he did it on purpose to hurt and he regrets his words right after. See why its so important for you to know your boyfriend and know yourself before deciding what to do when he doesnt make an effort? Hes a year above me, so he went to the senior high and I still went to the junior high (sophomore and freshman) and he would go out of his way because his school got out earlier, he would walk to the junior high and meet me after school and wed walk home. Losing the I may be overreacting sometimes, but I believe my feelings are valid. Stop yourself from bombarding him with messages. For example, he never said that he was looking forward to seeing me when he made plans to hang out, so I stopped doing that. He feels sex is for marriage. Just stop allowing that guy to keep thrusting a dagger in your heart. Im so sorry this happened to you. He has recently been stressed about getting into grad school and got denied for his first two school. Im slowly giving up but everytime i try to let go he acts like he rlly loves me and he wants me back. He said he wants to make this relationship work but he cant even communicate which is important. Im a very physical touch/ Quality time person. He just plays it off as nothing serious unless Im breaking down crying. Weve been together for 5 years. I was so upset and sad to know he did that, specially after just having a baby. I mentallyI dont understand the action itself . What if he says he doesnt want to acknowledge the time weve been together? InWhen He Doesnt Make Time for You: How to Create More Love in Your Relationship, Byron Katie shows a man how to build a better relationship by questioning thoughts such as I want him to spend more time with me.. Anyway I would talk about these things with him and he would make progress, but then get right back to the same place shortly after. I am not at all sure he would do the same for me. Dont turn a blind eye on things that are sign showing and you are not happy for them. We have complete separate paths in store and we have absolutely nothing in common and we also live together but we barely see each other so you would think that when we do have time for one another he would enjoy the time he has with me but it doesnt feel like that. funny and stupid for I was foolish to be trapped with his flowering words. He foes sweet thoughtfulthings when I come over yo see him. I asked him to spend Memorial Day with me shocker he forgot and made other plans. We were really happy and things happended so good. How you approach your boyfriend depends on his personality, your style of communication, and your relationship. I really dont know what how to go about it. He texts me every morning and night and we often text during the day. Just about two weeks ago, the cycle broke. I know he loves me but weve talked multiple times about how I dont feel loved, wanted, or appreciated, and he just sits there and doesnt change. he said its his karma for leaving me behind. I'm Laurie, creator of Uprooted She Blossoms and author of Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back. The only thing I get from him are words. Thats was our first time seeing each other in person (granted, Id seen him randomly beforehand in elementary school years before that). Nor the stress of my mothers battle with stage 4 cancer. I dont know what to do. Has financial debt, related to college expenses. When i say effort drops off, he takes hours to reply to me despite being very active on social media and those replies are one word conversation enders, isnt bothered about spending time with me, tells me he is busy with his family, but I will find out hes actually with his friends, I plan days out in advance but he makes me aware he wont be able to attend because of workbut then when the time comes round to it, he is free but is going out with his friends in advance. I came across a guy who seemed familiar but had a different name. pandemic and there is nothing to do. However, if my boyfriend was gaming with another girl I would have broken up with him. He used to come over to my place so often no matter what day what time. He will see what he lost. He has never introduced me to his father. I hope everything goes well for both us to get this relationship last. Thank you for taking the time to type the words in your comment. In fact, he rejects them flat out. We were living together but decided to try living apart since we jumped into the relationship. He broke up with me because I was becoming emotionally unavailable and I always cried when I was with him. Whats the point of working hard if you wont let yourself play hard? My friends have been pulling their hair out trying to get him to help them plan my party and he ignores their texts. they say love is sweeter than the second time arounnd, probably to some but not on me l met my boyfriebd wayback in highschool .. Im so gullible that time that I gave him everything I had. You are independent. I dont feel like I really know him at all. Thats the only way you will know how he truly feels. I think I should take a relationship break but dont want to lose him. Hopefully, these reasons will let you know the answer if you are wondering why did he stop talking to me. Please advice me on this. I used to brag up the fact that he was one of those guys who would actually reply to all of a lengthy message so to speak but lately he ignores a lot of whats said as if he just doesnt care. Even seemingly harmless criticism and patronizing comments, too, can take a toll. More than likely you will both have to work on this throughout your relationship and adjusting as the relaitonship adjusts and GROWS. But still hes everything I want and need. He is not often visit to me. I said it would really mean the world to me if he would send me a good morning text like he used to. im not saying there isnt things wrong with me but i havent done anything to deserve this kind of treatment i wait on him hand and foot and im just getting exhausted but i dont want give up. I want to give myself time to breath but when I do, again I feel lazy and like Im doing nothing with my life. Gaslighting, deflecting if I try to reasonably communicate how I feel (because I am not allowed to ever have a problem). You deserve better and it sounds line hes managing down your expectations. 1. ? And thats what messes with me a lotwhy doesnt he want to do the same for me. [1] The key to solving any problem is understanding the underlying cause. Things are getting better as we learn about his condition and learn the tools to manage conflicts between us. 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